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For years I have had the feeling that there was an extremely important character moving around my inner selves, but one who remained hidden in the shadows. However, I was never able to identify this shadowy inner self clearly or work out what they were actually doing. Quite suddenly, this character has emerged, I can see her, can give her a name and start to describe her. I call this character the "Little Trauma Witch"
I am literally writing this as I go and I realise that I am at a very early stage in my awareness of this powerful character. However I get the impression that whatever significant problems I face in my selves (the things that go seriously wrong, that get distorted or badly out of balance, my worst clamps and blockages) are all in some way under the influence of what I call her "muddled magic".
And, I am very interested to know what you think about this character. As yet I have spent very little time dialoguing with my own Witch, but it somehow seems as though she has suddenly agreed to help me to write these notes. It is far too early yet to be sure of anything about this new character but the notes below cover what I have learned so far.
Below, I have made the list of some of the things that tell me that my Little Trauma Witch is busy in my village. These happen to be the same patterns people display if they experienced severe childhood trauma (as I did as a child). So, I suppose I had better explain first what I'm talking about when I use the word "trauma".
Let's start with a psychological-type definition of trauma:
Most traumatic events seem far more serious to a small child than to an adult. To the child they seem to present a very real threat to any one of:
And of course in the worst cases what the child fears is not just a threat. The possibility that it could happen is all too real. Experiences like this should not have happened to us as children. In such cases, if you prefer, instead of the word "trauma" you could call it "abuse". Because that's what it is.
What I noticed - Signs of Muddled Magic in my Village
Here are some of the typical patterns in daily behaviour that you might notice in grown-up people who have experienced childhood trauma:
and perhaps the single most significant characteristic of all ......
The more serious the childhood trauma the more these patterns (above) are likely to be obvious to other people and invisible to the individual who is experiencing them.
OK enough of the traditional psychological stuff. How about looking at all this in terms of life in our old inner village, the new Awareness Village up on the hill and the Little Trauma Witch?
Where Does She Come from? Emergence of the Little Trauma Witch.
The trauma witch appears to enter the village as a direct result of traumatic or very negative experiences, particularly in early childhood. How does this happen?
One of the most damaging effects of trauma is that none of the "normal" primary inner selves, appear able to do anything about it. These are the characters who are used to handling all of the problems in the inner village. Suddenly they find themselves powerless to deal with traumatic events, either at the time that events are happening or afterwards.
This, of course, is the typical scenario that leads to the creation of new inner selves.
In my case it was the Little Trauma Witch who appeared in my village, claiming that she had the power to stop the trauma from happening again. In addition, she claimed she could fix the damage caused by it.
Keep in mind that like the other inner selves, the Little Trauma Witch is likely to have an emotional age between six and 10 years. What I think happens is:
So, instead of providing real protection and fixing problems, when she unleashes her powers my Little Inner Witch finishes up confusing the rest of the people in the inner village. No one seems immune to her magic as she floats around them casting her little spells. Some inner selves (inner selves) , like the Judge, the Inner Critic, the Rule Maker, and of course the inner Patriarch and Matriarch actually seem to like what she is doing because it creates more opportunities for them to come in and criticise things in the village.
And this is why so often in adulthood we find ourselves feeling unsuccessful, confused, unbalanced or distorting our reality. We find ourselves repeating patterns of self-defeating behaviour and often we are unable to see any of this clearly, even though it is obvious to others around us. We may even feel as though we are caught up in some kind of magic spell that has got out of hand. Perhaps this is closer to the truth than we realised.
Confusion Disassociation and Distortion
The Little Trauma Witch can set up a wide range of different kinds of distortions. I think I will find that she is the character behind most of the inner selves who live in the North East corner of my village, the ones I describe as the "clamps" those disempowering, disguised and confused inner selves (inner selves) : For example:
Blockages and Clamps
I am getting the impression that most of the things that don't work properly in my village are in some way under the influence of my Trauma Witch. All the things that I can't do, my procrastination, my negative core beliefs not to mention my (until recently paralysing) inner Matriarch, all of them seemed to be connected to her in some way. (See separate page on The The Complex corner added 23 February 2004
Her attempts at magic distorts our self image, unbalances our self esteem, shrinks our ability to love ourselves. She may even tell us that we are being conceited, selfish, or sinful if we attempt to love ourselves or build up our self esteem!
Sense of Identity
Her muddled magic undermines our sense of identity, telling us we are not who we really are but rather we are whatever others say we are.
Sense of Reality
This distorts our sense of reality, our ability to see hear and sense what is actually happening around us. We think we are still hearing and seeing accurately when really we are missing things that are important or hearing words that are not actually being spoken.
One Side Magnified - Other Sides Hidden
Muddled magic also blinds us so we cannot see that most things in life have two, three or more sides. When the Little Trauma Witch is active we see one of those sides as if it was magnified while we have difficulty seeing the other sides at all.
This damages our steering mechanism, that is our ability to make easy and flexible adjustments in response to changing situations. Making positive changes in our lives appears as a difficult, scary or impossible task, when in reality making a positive change is a sign we are growing.
Instead of being able to move smoothly (mentally, emotionally or physically) in different directions, we find it too difficult to shift, we get stuck, we can't make the kind of easy adjustments that would help us keep our mental, emotional and physical lives in balance. we cannot make the changes in our life that would really make a positive difference.
Getting Others to Change Is What Makes Us Happy
One of the greatest distortions that come from the muddled magic is the belief that the only way we can be happy is to get other people around us to change. Along with this she also tells us that (if and when) the other person changes (and provided they change the way we want them to) this will magically empower us with that elusive sense of feeling love, safety and happiness that we have been seeking throughout our lives. (See separate pages on Making Changes That Make a Difference and Myths about Not Being Able to Change) xxxx Links to come here.
Her magic robs us of our ability to look after our own needs at those times when there is no one else around who can be our friend. She may even tell us that it is selfish to think about looking after ourselves, that we don't deserve this and that we should spend our time looking after other people who are more worthy than we are. (And expect that this is the only way to get other people to look after us!)
Damaging Our Boundaries
The Little Trauma Witch doesn't understand boundaries, those energetic and physical shields that we all need to protect ourself from the impact other people can have on us. (And our impact on other people.) Because she doesn't understand them she usually tries to weaken them. We can try to strengthen them again but she undermines them faster than we can build them up.
Cutting off Our Spiritual Connection
Her fear of what she doesn't understand causes her to cut us off from our deep inner spirit, our soul, our sense of having a spiritual connection with our God (in whatever way we seek to know our own particular Higher Power)
Negative Core Beliefs
It is becoming obvious to me that the Little Trauma Witch is very much involved in setting up and maintaining most negative core beliefs within us.
What Do We Do about the Little Trauma Witch?
As always, you cannot get rid of any established self. And, keep in mind that she is still only a little girl trying her hardest to fix things that are beyond her capacity to fix. She needs a rest rather than condemnation. But you can look at the lack of balance she is creating. Whatever powerful inner selves (inner selves) exists within us, there must always be an opposite personality somewhere nearby who can help with this balancing.
Creating a more flexible balance with an opposite self means she is not rejected or discredited but she will get a chance to take a rest.
I imagine that there is a more grown-up witch or a wizard living in my new village up on the hill who has the power to balance the muddled magic cast by the Little Trauma Witch. If so, perhaps they will provide us with the answer. What do you think?
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