The troublesome ten percent
More action - less teamwork
For each of is there are some areas of our lives where we know that try as we will, we lack the skills or abilities we require, where we experience troublesome stuff ups or breakdowns and deep inside we know that we could have done better.
These are signs which tell you these situations are:
• in some way the work of certain members of your inner villager
• that the activities of these relatively few inner villagers repeatedly cause trouble out of all proportion to their number
• that what they do can undermine much of the good work the rest of your village is doing.
As you can see from the list below one of the basic problems with these few inner villagers members is their lack of integration. This limits their ability to work as a team and adds other complications.
Characteristics of C type inner villagers
Below are some pointers that tell you if a typical less integrated inner villager has taken over or feels that it is ‘in charge’. The signs are much the same whether you are noticing your own, or someone else’s less integrated inner villager
Although the examples are about spoken interactions, you could observe the same pointers if you were reading an e-mail, report or letter the inner villager had helped write.
+) thinking up or down, left or right, winner or loser. They describe things as:
• one thing is good or bad; black or white the other is not
• one thing is right, the opposite is wrong;
• one thing must be done but the other must not
• one way must work and the other must fail
• Interactions with another person seem to push each into a position that reflects the view that either: ‘our power/resources are bigger than the problem’ or ‘the problem is bigger than our power/resources’ or the person switches back and forth between each of these two positions.
• The level of power between two opposing inner villagers appears to be clearly out of balance.
2. Is there a sense of opposition or conflict around what the inner villager is doing and saying?
The lower the integration the less confident the villager feels and the more then chance that they will see their opposite as a threat or point of conflict.
Less integrated villagers usually size up an opposite number as an opponent or adversary and (in sporting terms) mark them accordingly (It may be on the same field or off the field (discredited villagers) or an inner villager in another person, but which ever it is this sense of opposition and conflict affects how each one plays their game.
Like players on one side of a sporting team, less integrated villagers don’t like to be on the sideline. They can be strongly influenced by and react with intensity in regard to what they think their ‘opposite’ villagers are doing. Of course from the villager’s point of view it is just trying to protect you from what it sees either as your lack of resources or from the ‘awful consequences’ in its eyes if the opposite team was allowed to get the ball.
3. Are there more than usual errors or gaps in accuracy, memory or perception? (Combined with above average insistence that it’s is not them (the inner villager speaking) who is making this error)
The healthiest most integrated people make mistakes, forget, miss the point, or just don’t notice something in front of them. But a C type villager’s patterns show up as more common occurrences of memories that are inaccurate or perception of events is that are distorted. Readily observable events may go totally unnoticed.
There is a saying that each C type villager wears different glasses, a different watch, carries a different ruler, a different notebook, a different map of the world and each one uses a different kind of computer, a different operating system and even a different kind of keyboard.
After they experience lapses of memory or errors in accuracy they then exercise considerable vigour in insisting that it must be the other person’s inner villager who is making the error (polarised thinking).
Less integrated villagers tend to be specialists who work automatically in response to events and therefore they have a limited repertoire of responses. Usually they react in the same way to similar situations. Many inner villagers have difficulty varying their patterns.
This can result in it working even harder (but following its usual style) to reduce anxiety or vulnerability? (Rescuing, surrendering, peacekeeping, pleasing, don’t rock the boat, giving up, giving in, playing victim or martyr, procrastinating, avoiding decisive action, avoiding decision making, even blocking stronger inner villagers who want to get on with things)
The words the villager is putting into your mouth or the actions it has you doing are about someone else, what that person is doing, about their actions or the impact of what they have done or said on you.
Less integrated villagers like to focus on single actions and outcomes rather than allowing time for planning or asking questions.
The level of energy related to this intention may be strong or weak, but if you can see, hear or feel some kind of pressure relating to the intention, this suggests a less integrated villager is involved
Each of the above problem characteristics are in part related to the basic nature of C type inner villagers which typically includes some or all of the following.
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