2. Additional Village Characters not found in Voice Dialogue
| Voice Dialogue
teachers tend to call any opposite self a "disowned"
even when it is just opposite and though weaker is clearly still active
in the person's life. For me the term "disowned" only
applies to characters who are clearly out of the village and totally or
almost always inaccessible.
Disowned are only one kind of opposite
A truly "disowned" or discredited energetic opposite
of a Primary self (that is a typical Active inner villager )
might be for example the opposite to a strong
active A "peacekeeper". The peacekeeper a long time ago arranged for its opposite
"open honest and blunt" to be discredited, exiled and
But this is not the only kind of opposite as I explain below. As I see it, there are several other kinds of selves that are "opposite" in the energetic sense but still quite active in their own way, for example the Backup (B) Private (P) and Complex (C) types and the Refugees. Here's how I distinguish the different kinds of opposites in the inner village.
Active or primary villagers (A Types)
Backup or type B villager
Active Type A
Backup Type B
|responsible caretaker||self nurturer|
|rational analytical thinker||artist, creative|
|extroverted||quiet and withdrawn|
|peacekeeper, don't rock the boat||warrior, defender|
3. Discredited, Exiled or disowned (D types)
Here I make a distinction that differs from Voice Dialogue. But it is one that I feel is essential to clarify what is happening in the inner village.
or Biblical disowning - the "real"
The observation that a stronger self will expel or remove other selves because they appear to be "troublemakers" is all too true. The term "disowning" especially in the Biblical sense is a remarkably accurate description for this process (though not an easy one to visualise). Think of it this way. The "disowned" character was once an active member of the village. For example in a James it was his sensitivity and his ability to tap into his emotions, his "feeling" self. To James's primary "macho" self this feeling character was seen as a constant source of shame, guilt and loss of status amongst James's friends. The "macho" identified James's feeler self as a major cause of as trouble. And so the decision was made. It had to be expelled.
After that, James stopped experiencing emotions and became a very tough character.
His feelings character was not only turned out into the
desert. In addition what it used to do is never even discussed in his inner
village. Its original existence is denied. Any suggestion that the feelings
might be able to return is vigorously denied and opposed. And yet James's
feeling character still exists. Somewhere out there in the deep dark forest the
character survives, and waits for its opportunity to come back .....
As Hal and Sidra Stone have shown in case after case, the effect of this is subtle but can have a strong effect on your life. James marries a woman who has disowned her strong warrior woman character and is constantly experiencing out of control emotional outbursts. This is not a co-incidence! It is his exiled feelings using his wife to get back into James's life.
Whatever characters you have disowned can have an extremely powerful effect on your life as explained in my separate Voice Dialogue pages - Effects of Disowning and Identifying Disowned Selves within you)
So for that kind of disowned and discredited character the term is absolutely
accurate., Voice Dialogue teachers, however tend to use the term
more widely, describing any opposite self as "disowned" even when it
is just an energetic opposite of a primary Active one.
But, though secondary, some of these characters are clearly still active in the person's life or inner village. They talk to us. Some fix problems, some cause problems. They often do important specialist jobs in the village. They are often observed as parts of common repetitive patterns, good and not so good. So they can't possibly be the same as the exiled, discredited or true disowned.
This is why I like to identify and talk about several other kinds of selves that are "opposite" in the energetic sense but still quite active in their own way, for example:
For me the term "disowned" (D) only applies to characters who are clearly outside the village and totally or almost always inaccessible. That is, unless you set up an active process for returning them to the village. And before you do that, you need to get the agreement of the Active villager who expelled them in the first place. (This is a more complex process but I will describe it in a later page (link to come -new pages to be written on this)
Other places in the Inner Village
The Safe Place (new pages to come on this)
The marketplace (new pages to come on this)
The Private or Walled Off Section (new pages to come
Other linked pages ..... (ALL ADDED JANUARY 1996 - - 2010)
Why tell stories rather than talk psychology? - Added 08 February 1996 - - 2010
Guidelines to working with Inner villagers -1996 - - 2010
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